Every year the stress is the same. If I don’t buy anything for my family they’ll think I don’t love them. We’ve all been programmed so well.
I know very well that nothing can represent the love I have for my family. I love them with all that I am.
This Christmas I have a girlfriend. I love her dearly, so much so that I can say my search is over. I told her one day that I was a bit stressed out because I couldn’t figure out what to buy her for the holiday. She looked at me and said “I don’t care about all that bullshit, Christmas to me is about being with the people you love and having a good time. You don’t have to buy me anything. and I won’t buy you a present.” We promised each other not to. I tried to tell my family the same but somehow a few presents were still exchanged, my girlfriend and I split the cost of three bottles of wine. One for my sister, one for my mother, one for my brother and his wife and put in envelopes a few bucks for my nieces and brother’s step daughter.
If you love someone and want to buy them something to show it, do it, but why wait for Christmas or their birthday. Or, better yet, make them something. This year one of my nieces painted a cartoon character for me and I love it and will always cherish it.